Saturday, December 5, 2009

potluck tonight!

Big day today, so much has happened. It included hay lofts, a trip to the dump, an animal control officer, and a pair of alpacas (not mine, a friend's). I'll post more soon. I just wanted to drop a note sharing how excited I am for the Christmas Potluck tonight in our Town Hall, and to share the awesome sign at the Yellow Farmhouse. It's snowing right now and the farm is covered in a blanket of white. Tonigh is going to be amazing, I can feel it in my bones.

A reader emailed me today to tell me how distasteful it was "asking" for donations to buy a farm. I would like to make it clear that I have never asked anyone, ever, to donate money to the farm fund, including this week. This recent flurry of charity was not something I started (though I damn well appreciate) and besides one small graphic link on the right hand side of this blog, there has never been a single post asking for money. The paypal link was there because a while ago readers requested it as a simple way to help pay for chicken feed or aid the dream if they felt the desire. However, if this now offends a herd of people, I will take it down.

Now, with that said, what I have done is posted small fundraising ideas like auctions, watercolors, and workshops as ways to earn extra savings, but I don't consider such an exchange distasteful. I want to be clear I am not demanding anything from my readers, nor asking. This story is free. This blog is free. And I do not want to come across as such a person.

I've had enough of misconceptions for one week, thank you.


Blogger Seafish said...

I really wish people would take the time to find out whats going on before they comment on things. If the reader would have read a little they would have seen that the outpouring was from peoples hearts and was never solicitated.

By the way, if I send a Jenna/Coldantlerfarm photo I printed, would you autograph it for me?
I'll even make another donation and that way I received something in return!

December 5, 2009 at 4:15 PM  
Blogger Angi said...

Pish posh on whatever reader had the nerve to make such a rude assumption about you and your blog. I, and I would bet almost all your other readers, think you should leave the donate button up and not waste another moment worrying about it. Have fun at the potluck!

December 5, 2009 at 4:23 PM  
Blogger nancmcp said...

Unfortunately, the Internet has allowed some folks to feel entitled to voice their opinion about everyone else's business, whether or not it's an informed opinion.

I've been reading your blog since the ME article and buying your book. I've never seen anything resembling requests or demands for donations.

But you already know that! Please don't take down the Paypal link. It's helpful to those of us who do feel led to donate.

Keep it up. You're such an inspiration, not by trying to be, just by the way you live your live and share same. Thanks.

December 5, 2009 at 4:26 PM  
Blogger HotFlashHomestead said...

Anyone who read the whole development of the story and threads which led to the donations could have easily seen it was a reader-generated, grass-roots kind of thing.

Not your fault, but theirs (and their third grade reading teacher who obviously did not teach enough comprehension lessons) if they couldn't follow along closely enough to see that.

Oh well. Have fun at the party!

December 5, 2009 at 4:35 PM  
Blogger erislaughs said...

ew what an awful email! im busted poor and i have never felt pressured to send you money, and this is one of my favourite blogs (ie i read it a lot).

my grandmother (who i called nan) was big into manners, and she told me over and over that part of being polite is learning how to handle other people's rudeness. where a small infraction being commented upon made the commenter the more rude party. your emailer doesnt understand you or your audience, and is distasteful and rude. s/he would never be invited to my nan's tea.

beyond not being invited to tea, i am fairly tactless and think s/he is a shameless windbag who can shove it.

<3 you rule. dont let petty people bring you down.

December 5, 2009 at 5:09 PM  
Blogger Meredith said...

They should definately know better than to make assumptions if they are a reader of your blog. But, some people just like to talk. Or type, as the case may be.

Don't think anything of it, leave the link where it is and enjoy your potluck. :)

December 5, 2009 at 5:10 PM  
Blogger Farmgirl Cyn said...

So totally NOT offended! I think you should leave the donate button up, and go enjoy your potluck! Aren't potlucks the greatest???

December 5, 2009 at 5:12 PM  
Blogger Heather said...

Absolutely leave it up. Your blog is a service to the dreamers among us who aren't there yet---encouraging us to keep dreaming, do what we can, learn as much as possible, etc. You work harder than most people I know, and if some of your readers want to support your hard work, by all means give them a way to do that!

December 5, 2009 at 5:19 PM  
Blogger Kate said...

Aw, screw 'em is what I say. Even if you were begging abjectly, which you're not, it's your damn blog. If they find anything here "distasteful," well, there's the rest of the frickin' internet out there to entertain them. Is someone forcing them to visit your blog? Didn't think so.

December 5, 2009 at 5:27 PM  
Blogger DJ said...

To the person who emailed Jenna regarding being "distasteful": You need to be introduced to the "neighbor" who voiced her opinion to the landlord. It sounds like you have the same personalities, "Holier Than Thou". Obviously, you don't realize how many people of all ages that this young lady inspires to get back to basics and start enjoying a real life, whether it be on a farm or in a condo. Donating for THAT alone is worth it.

December 5, 2009 at 5:28 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Some people are just plain rude! I for one say leave the button posted. It is apparent that the nasty commenter does not know the whole story.

You have been and are a great encouragement to others who share the same dreams and beliefs as you Jenna. Don't let one person discourage you from your dreams. I love reading your blog and hearing about your farm in Vermont. I know that you have a lot of cheerleaders out here in blogland. Just keep the faith and it will all come together soon.

December 5, 2009 at 5:44 PM  
Blogger April said...

I just wanted to say that I love reading your blog and give you much credit for going after what you want no matter how difficult that may be. Sounds like a lot of readers are on your side! I hope the potluck is great fun!

December 5, 2009 at 5:48 PM  
Blogger Katrina said...

I just wanted to chime in to say I am NOT offended - AT ALL. I'm a relatively new reader, but I love the blog and hearing about your lovely little homestead, and I hope I'll get to hear about it for quite some time to come. I don't feel at all pressured to "donate" (pay for the awesome literature you create might be a more honest way of putting that - lit I heartily enjoy), but I'm so happy knowing I can when I can! Thank you for the stories and please, keep that link there!

December 5, 2009 at 5:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG all we get is the teaser. Spill the beans, tell us how this story is unfolding. And I am confused, how is your homesteading lifestyle suddenly a problem. Is it cause the rabbit was on the porch and they thought weather was too severe for that? Am I understanding correctly, the person that got thier panties in an uproar is a neighbor, someone you asked to watch your place and a partial owner? And, who contacted animal control and why? Well anyway have fun at your potluck. I hope in such a small town this doesn't get unpleasant for you. So sorry to hear what you are going through. I have to find a new home for my goat but he was never fixed or debudded (as I was told he was) and he is mean as hell and will kill you!! I think I need to rehome some of my chickens too because I have excess eggs and not enough regular customers. Organic feed is expensive. It's hard I know. I feel real responsible for all my animals but our situation is more financial and I don't have a choice. I hope you find fosters for everyone and that things work out. Take Care have fun tonight Susan

December 5, 2009 at 6:00 PM  
Blogger Reason's Whore said...

Frankly I think your "donate" button is about as subtle an invitation to contribute as anyone could wish. Witness the fact that numerous readers who WANTED to donate couldn't find it.

Give the busybody the bird and carry on. Congratulations on the new book. Hope they pay you a bundle, or at least a living wage. :)

December 5, 2009 at 6:02 PM  
Blogger Artful Gathering said...

Jenna, Have fun at the Potluck tonight. I bet you will meet alot of new neighbors. I will be thinking of you... Also please leave the pay pal button up. The person who responded must of been uninformed or did not read your blog thoroughly. I find that it is a convienent way for others/myself to donate to a good cause as our budgets allow. We are all rooting for you. You go girl!

December 5, 2009 at 6:07 PM  
Blogger S. Edwards said...

"Never you mind" as my grandmother used to say!

Love that farmhouse sign. Dying to know how that potluck was.

December 5, 2009 at 6:45 PM  
Blogger Sparkless said...

It's not distasteful to me at all. We read your writing free all the time and having a link up for donations or talking about your finances isn't asking for money. Heck if I thought it would work I'd ask for money on my blog! LOL!
Don't let a few negative comments get you down there's always some people that get offended at anything you'll do.

December 5, 2009 at 6:46 PM  
Blogger jackieh said...

I have never felt any obligation to donate but when I wanted to was glad the paypal button was there, so please leave it. I donated because I wanted to help someone continue a lifestyle I aspire to and it is heartening to see someone achieving it.
Anyway, never mind all this hoopla. Enjoy the potluck and take care.

December 5, 2009 at 6:47 PM  
Blogger omnicharm said...

Please don't change anything for this one person! I so much appreciate reading your blog and have never felt pressure to donate. Were my finances to allow it, I probably would just to show my appreciation if nothing else. Please keep it up!

December 5, 2009 at 6:54 PM  
Blogger Luster said...

Hey, I just wanted to let you know that at least man reads your blog as well, daily in fact. Distasteful? Hardly. Keep it coming.

December 5, 2009 at 7:16 PM  
Blogger Debi said...

Oh you busy girl! Enjoy your potluck tonight and that beautiful snow(please post pictures)! I'll be looking forward to reading about your day. And leave that paypal button right where it is, for those of of who may want to use it from time to time.

December 5, 2009 at 7:23 PM  
Blogger Pilgrim Soul said...

Definitely leave the donate button up. And continue to post things/services that you're selling.

I'm not sure why, but it seems that folks think that no one is supposed to let others know when they are struggling or need help. Eh, don't sweat it.

The potluck sounds divine! Enjoy!

December 5, 2009 at 7:29 PM  
Blogger Tony Colella said...

There is always some nut on every forum/blog etc. that is never satisfied what you do and even when you do accomodate them, they never follow through on their own demands.

Forget the flakes. 5% of society causes 100% of the problems. Ignore them. They don't have hundreds of people coming out of the woodwork to help them because they have given nothing to anyone. You have given a great deal of information and inspiration so if folks want to help out that is their choice.

Delete the offensive email so we can all sleep better.

Tony in Asheville

December 5, 2009 at 7:35 PM  
Blogger Robin / Chris said...

My Aunt, who is 80, has been reading your blog. She told me last week "I really like that girl in Vermont." So please, keep doing your thing, and in her words "piss on everybody else."

December 5, 2009 at 7:36 PM  
Blogger River said...

Don't you dare take the pay pal button down!!

There's always an a**in the crowd..

Sorry I'm pretty plain spoken..but this just gets my goat..

Also,I know how much you love VT..but have you thought about coming back to TN? Land is cheap..

December 5, 2009 at 7:48 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Because of you my wife and I took a backyard poultry class. We now raise chickens for eggs, Muscovy ducks for meat and income, turkeys for the freezer and a pen of meat chickens is coming soon. We grow our own veggies and herbs now. I bake bread, quiches and make my own sausage. I smoke my own bacon and make turkey stock. I canned my own jams and sauces for the first time this year. My wife knits and sells the scarves or gives them as gifts. All of this was accomplished with the courage and confidence we got from you. I run a national grocery store and she works for an international loan servicing company. All we can think of now is our own farm. I think we can all agree that is a fair trade for a click on the 'ole paypal button.

You touch lives on a huge scale in very significant ways, we should all be so lucky

December 5, 2009 at 7:51 PM  
Blogger River said...

From what I've seen here ( the out pouring of help) is the different between those that get "it" and those that "don't" living this life we've chosen .
You help your neighbor when there is a need.. either in cash or a helping hand.. heck,even a meal or two when the chips are down..
Its called a community.. and this blog is a community even if its on the web..
Jenna you give a lot of yourself and your life..
There are days that I just feel like throwing my hands up.. come to this blog and read what's going on in your life and I say " self,pull your self up by the boots straps and keep on,she's doing it by herself!!"

So,to hell w/ the nay sayer.. we that "get it" got your back..

December 5, 2009 at 7:56 PM  
Blogger ThiftedBliss said...

Jenna, Please leave the button up-none of your true friends are offended! Have a great time this evening, looking forward to hearing all about it!
Karen in CT

December 5, 2009 at 8:09 PM  
Blogger finsandfeathers said...

I'll quote a great American philosopher and poet:

"There's no DUMB ASS vaccine..."

Jimmy Buffett

Some people just don't get it.

December 5, 2009 at 8:49 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I agree with the majority. Leave the button up and if people want to donate to your farm dream in exchange for a good read and a little dream of their own...let them!
The way I see it, you would probably be the first in line to help out someone let it be...and get on with the dream. If we want to be in on the 'dream' it's our choice.
Tami E.
PS..Still no snow here (Syracuse)...what's up with that?

December 5, 2009 at 8:51 PM  
Blogger Emma said...

Please leave the button up! Wishing you all the best.

December 5, 2009 at 8:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Leave the button up if you wish. There is NOTHING offensive or rude about that. This is your journal and people appreciate reading it. If they want to donate, they will. If they don't want to, they won't. You have never asked or pressured anyone. Some people don't have enough going on in there lives and become bored. These people are usually the ones trying to tell everyone ELSE what they should do. I say ignore them. Sounds like they are just sad and bored.

December 5, 2009 at 9:21 PM  
Blogger T said...

Some people were never taught the adage: "If you can't say anything nice, say nothing at all!". Thy are the same people that can't tolerate a certain TV program and write to the stations to have it removed - rather than just changing the channel.

Hang in there Jenna - don't let the turkey's get you down.

December 5, 2009 at 10:15 PM  
Blogger Lil said...

Pish posh on whoever it was made that comment. You're one of the nicest bloggers I read. Please leave that donation button up - I want to send in more "subscription" money when I have it. :-) Hope you had fund at your potluck.

December 5, 2009 at 10:43 PM  
Blogger Frenchie said...

Leave the donate button. Like Kate said no one is forcing anyone to read your blog. As for the rest of us we like it the way it is!

December 6, 2009 at 12:13 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ditto to everything else thats been said before me!

Especially to what Harvest Home wrote- this is, we ARE your community. And in this community, neighbors help each other out- not because they were asked but because they want to and its the right thing to do! It feels right to help someone out who has inspired and uplifted so many of us. I vote yes for the keeping the donate button.

Enjoy your potluck!

December 6, 2009 at 12:22 AM  
Blogger Rene said...

People help because they *want* to help. They'd help even if you tried to stop them because what you do, the way you live, gives so much hope to people that a different, less soul poisoning, way of life if possible. I've said before, you deserve your dream because you work hard for it. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Let people who can't have chickens enjoy the thought of feeding yours and let people who don't get what this is all about go on their befuddled way. I hope you had fun at the potluck!

December 6, 2009 at 12:55 AM  
Blogger Donna said...

What is up? Dang girl, you are having some bad juju this past week - must be the full moon!

I was actually thinking it is very generous of you to share your story with the rest of us for free!

Keep up the great work!

December 6, 2009 at 1:31 AM  
Blogger Lynda Halliger Otvos (Lynda M O) said...

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December 6, 2009 at 4:40 AM  
Blogger Lynda Halliger Otvos (Lynda M O) said...

Jenna, i read Cold antler Farm in my Google Reader and had not seen your actual Blogpage until tonight--when I was unable to find the PayPal button. Looks like i am comment number 40 and I echo all the above community members who encourage you to leave that button up for those of us who want to donate and feel like we too can Pet The Animals.

Your quiche makes me hungry! I love the way you write and want to buy both your books from you. How does one do that?

edit: reposted so I could check the "email follow-up comments" box. thanks

December 6, 2009 at 4:43 AM  
Blogger tigress said...

leave it up!

i love your blog and just knowing that you have the guts to do it makes my dream seem closer. :)

December 6, 2009 at 7:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh ffs! Ignore the idiots, leave the button right where it is, and I hope you had an excellent time at your party!

December 6, 2009 at 8:22 AM  
Blogger Candace Trew Camling said...

You put a lot of time and energy into this blog and the lifestyle you lead. Adding a paypal button to your page is no different than taking money from ads on your blog. No one is forcing anyone to contribute... and even if you WERE begging or asking... who cares? You are doing something really special and you have a large crowd watching you for free!

December 6, 2009 at 10:05 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

People who use words like "distasteful" trigger my "rude" button, as in "Oh, yeah? Well I find your hairdo distasteful, lady, so when you shave your head, I'll take down my Donate button."

Don't you just picture Nellie Olesen's mother from Little House on the Prairie? I don't know 'bout you, but I don't EVER want to remind anyone of Mrs. Oleson.

December 6, 2009 at 11:43 AM  
Blogger denise said...

so if they think it's distasteful, they shouldn't read it. the way i see it is, it's YOUR blog and you can do whatever you like. if someone offends me i just don't spend time with them anymore. should be the same for a blog.....just don't read it anymore. People!!!!!

December 6, 2009 at 1:00 PM  
Blogger denise said...

i don't understand what's wrong with people. It's YOUR blog and you can do whatever you want with it. If they don't like it, don't read it.

December 6, 2009 at 1:01 PM  
Blogger denise said...

didn't mean to post twice. thought my first one didn't make it.

December 6, 2009 at 1:02 PM  
Blogger Charlotte Scott said...

No offended in the slightest! If I want to donate, I will. If I don't, I won't. If I found you 'distasteful', I'd read a different blog!

December 6, 2009 at 4:26 PM  
Blogger Sol said...

I would be very interested in an auction you might run...

A signed copy of your book, a water colour. Yes for sure people would buy theses things from you. I definitely would try and get one.

I read your blog daily, it is a pleasure and a priviledge that you let us see your life. I read many blogs of this nature that inspire me. If I didnt read it here for free then I would have to buy more books like this. So having a donate button is a great way for people to give back.

Blogging each day is time consuming. as is writing of any sort...

we are all rooting for you!

December 6, 2009 at 5:44 PM  
Blogger Sol said...

Just donated! so Happy Christmas, Jenna and Animals.

Action speaks louder than my tip tapping on the key board, at my annoyance of some one emailing you. Hope it buys you a few blades of grass on your new farm.

December 6, 2009 at 6:06 PM  
Blogger Julia said...

Leave the button & delete stupid comments. I think it's amazing & sweet that your readers demanded a way to contribute - it makes me feel better about humanity. Take the button down when you hit the 40+% tax bracket ;-)

December 6, 2009 at 7:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would pay to read your blog, Jenna! I wish I could donate every time I read it. It is hope "wanna be farmers" like me. :)

December 7, 2009 at 12:00 PM  
Blogger DarcieGlam said...

If we want to help a young woman's dream, particularly if we can't have our own right now, where's the harm? Trust me you have way more fans than they say in the ATL, "let your haters be your motivators".

December 7, 2009 at 12:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Leave the button.

For every person that has a problem with it, there are 100 that don't.

December 7, 2009 at 6:33 PM  
Blogger Rhonda Jean said...

Jenna, don't you dare take that donate button down, don't change what you're doing, just keep going, girl. I am much older than you and I know this for sure. If you poke your head up, someone will try to shoot you down. I get some nasty comments too. I actually think they are from one person and I feel sorry for her. Imagine living that way, imagine seeing only the bad in people.

Don't change.

December 8, 2009 at 1:28 PM  
Blogger KimT said...

"WHATEVER!" to the person who emailed you. What is with people? If you don't want to donate, don't. But other people have the right to donate if they want to. Why does this person even care? Plus, whoever it is needs to get the facts straight. My goodness....

December 8, 2009 at 6:18 PM  

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