Monday, April 17, 2017

The Big F

Woke up early this morning to get a jump-start on work here at the home office. Proud to say that by 8AM I had finished all the farm chores, got work done with three design clients, and just came in from checking on my dirigibles in the goat pen. The Silkie chicks in the farmhouse are feathering out and growing bolder. The Khaki Campbell ducklings are outside in a little pen. A new shipment from Stromberg’s Poultry shows up early this week with a pile of heavy layers. I am planning on keeping a dozen or so and raising the rest to sell as started pullets for backyard chicken keepers in the area. I find that a lot of people are willing to pay $15-$30 for a healthy and laying young bird instead of the hassle of keeping a brooder and time that goes into raising them the first five months. If I play my cards right that will cover the last bits of the Kiva Loan for the pickup I bought a while back.

All is well here. Well, mostly so. The usual low-grade panic settings are purring along. I have ran out of creamer and am drinking my breakfast black, but besides that I can’t complain. Complaints are rolling in about leaving Facebook, though, but only from my mom.

Guys, I deactivated my Facebook account for my own mental health. It was too much. Too many people to keep track of, too many groups, clubs, conversations, and updates. I was spending too much time on social media and was starting to get creeped out by the weird messages from guys, people monitoring when I was online, and the politics of strangers. It got to the point where every single time I signed on to Facebook I was gritting my teeth hoping to just check my messages and sign off fast as possible. Also, Facebook was a place that made me feel bad by the constant comparisons I was forcing into my head. I would wake up perfectly happy and content with my lot in life and then fifteen minutes of scrolling through people's life advertisements and I was questioning my choices. Enough.

I am a little nervous about the audience there not coming here to check in on the blog, but not enough to sign back up. Nothing gets me more defiant than someone threatening me, and Facebook felt like a threat these past few years. This abusive partner explaining that if I leave I'll end up up alone and broke in the street without the constant updates of random pregnancies, dead dog announcements, and vacation photos. I'm active as hell on Twitter though, and urge you to follow me there for many daily updates, farm photos, etc. I'm @coldantlerfarm

So I'm off the addiction that is The big F. I’ll build up my readership on other platforms, get more work published in larger media formats, revamp this site instead of neglecting it for the dopamine rush of Facebook, a keep going. I am nothing if not a master of keeping on. 

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28 Comments:

Blogger Boud said...

Good decision! I support your taking care of yourself. A lot of fb is very superficial, not useful to your business, just a rush. Better do your stuff here in blogger and on Twitter. You can get to where attending to your media accounts takes more time than it's worth. I also love your kitchen pix with various animals on Twitter.

April 17, 2017 at 8:48 AM  
Blogger hart said...

Sounds like an excellent decision. Facebook is a huge time commitment these days, I want to be called to action, but it so constant. I'm sure your FB readers will follow you to this interesting and intelligent blog.

April 17, 2017 at 10:23 AM  
Blogger Jenna Woginrich said...

Thanks guys, that means a lot! And as much flack I am getting from some people (most of it nice flack, like they'll miss the updates there) it is such a relief.

April 17, 2017 at 10:45 AM  
Blogger beth said...

So glad you made that decision to drop the big F. I love reading your updates here and on Twitter. I believe in setting up your life to facilitate those moments too, as you described so eloquently. That's really what life is about. I've been a reader of your books for years, so happy to have found you here. Thank you for everything! Good luck with the kids, can't wait to meet hear all about them. ~b

April 17, 2017 at 11:15 AM  
Blogger Jenna Woginrich said...

Thanks Beth! And I have already found I want to write here more, and talking the comments more, since Big F is gone!

April 17, 2017 at 11:19 AM  
Blogger Cindie said...

Good for you leaving FB. I haven't gone there for just the same reasons and more. I know, maybe, it could help my business but that's life - I can't deal with all the crap that comes with it.

April 17, 2017 at 11:28 AM  
Blogger dc said...

Terrible! I'm only Facebook friends with actual friends, past and present. I have unfriended 3 people because while they were fine friends in HS they somehow turned into vitriolic hateful adults who disparaged my "real friends" for their views. I have many conservative friends I get along with perfectly well but those 3 had to go!

April 17, 2017 at 12:18 PM  
Blogger Debbie said...

I applaud your decision to leave FB and I am sure it wasn't done lightly. I've never ventured there since I am also a full time farmer (rivercottagefarm.net) and just couldn't imagine having the time to devote fully to both. I've always felt that it would always be easier just not to opt in than to try and leave once a presence it established. So BRAVO to you.

April 17, 2017 at 1:12 PM  
Blogger Sandi said...

Congratulations on focusing on your priorities. I prefer the blog over twitter. I still haven't figured how it works. I get some of it, thoroughly enjoy the pictures.
WHERE ARE THOSE TRIPLETS? (maybe quads?) I especially congratulate the debt pay-down. You are making it, girl!

April 17, 2017 at 2:50 PM  
Blogger Sandi said...

Congratulations on sticking to your priorities. I prefer the blog to twitter. I just haven't figured it all out, yet. I love the pictures. Also, congrats on the debt pay-down! You are making it, girl! WHERE ARE THOSE TRIPLETS? (maybe quads?) The ladies look awfully uncomfortable. Sandi

April 17, 2017 at 3:06 PM  
Blogger A.L. M. said...

I totally understand and agree with your decision for what it's worth. I don't look at most of my "friend"s' pages anymore because it was painful: to see the picture-perfect lives on display seemingly so effortlessly, in comparison with my crazy stressful nontraditional but authentic life.

April 17, 2017 at 3:17 PM  
Blogger Autumn Smith said...

I am inspired by your step away from the big F addiction. It is very true that most of what is on Facebook is 'life advertisements' and serves as yet another quick and easy way for us to disengage with the actual world around us. I'm sure you will find much more peace post-Facebook.

April 17, 2017 at 4:01 PM  
Blogger Pilates Paula said...

Good for you for taking control of your mental health. The "too much" factor is how I feel about the Big T, so I avoid that one. But then, I refuse to scroll on FB and only use it (barely) for my biz, cuz I get overloaded everywhere. And I subscribe to your blog so I see your posts automatically so I can get my CAF fix still. And congratulations for every day you stay stuck to your little piece of that mountain!

April 17, 2017 at 4:09 PM  
Blogger Laura said...

I totally support your FB decision!
I just found your blog after my mother sent me a Huffington Post article you wrote about travel.
That article spoke to my soul and so I came to read your blog. Farm life is good life. Just reading about it makes me happy. Thank you!

April 17, 2017 at 4:58 PM  
Blogger Cathy Hoff said...

Good for you! Don't have to worry about me not checking in. I like the blog better anyway. I get to read more of your wonderful writing. Hugs!

April 17, 2017 at 5:49 PM  
Blogger Sharon said...

Jenna, I have become discontent with facebook. My primary reason is my friends who post stuff 5 to 10 times each day. I have started to unfollow, but not unfriend these folks. I don't want all these things sent to me...such as all the reposting and ads. I am hoping for those goat kids to come soon.

April 17, 2017 at 6:06 PM  
Blogger MIB said...

As someone who has never joined FB, I'm reminded of a Tweet I saw once:
Twitter makes you love strangers. Facebook makes you hate the people you know.😉

April 17, 2017 at 6:09 PM  
Blogger Alexis Meehan said...

Congrats! I knew you were smart and good at at self-preservation! Onward!

April 17, 2017 at 6:21 PM  
Blogger Alexis Meehan said...

Congrats! I knew you were smart and good at at self-preservation! Onward!

April 17, 2017 at 6:22 PM  
Blogger Jenna Woginrich said...

Guys! I am just back from a small roadtrip. Patty and I left to pick up a small horse cart for Merlin we worked out a barter on, which I am beyond excited about! And when I came home to all these comments I was so happy. Both for your support and to feel this blog come alive again!

April 17, 2017 at 6:29 PM  
Blogger Molson said...

I love your Blog!!!!!!!!!!!

Forget Facebook, you made a good decision Jenna !!!!!!!!!

:)

April 17, 2017 at 10:18 PM  
Blogger Fungus Queen said...

Hey Jenna, I always read you here but never dare to post any comment. Today I will, to tell you, you did the right thing. I did the exact same thing about a month ago and since I quit, I feel so much better. I can think, I don't fight with no one anymore and I realize it makes me happier. I do miss some of my friends. Hopefully you have yours elsewhere than over there. Don't compare yourself to no one, so many look up to you, you should always be so proud of yourself, what you accomplished and what you are. I never went to Twitter before but since I quit FB I still read you on other platforms than FB. I'm not a stalker, just a fellow homesteading woman that likes to read about like minded people (I own almost all of your books) :)
Have a great day and congrats on the new goat kids :D

April 18, 2017 at 4:39 AM  
Blogger John Schaefer said...

Hi Jenna,

I'm back to checking the blog. While I appreciated the facebook links, I sure understand why you decided to disconnect.

I think its a great idea to raise chicks to sell as layers. I started my first flock 7 weeks ago with 6 chicks, and while it has been great fun, I will only need a new hen or two each year to keep the flock going. I can't raise that few birds from babies. Wish I lived closer.

Margaret

April 18, 2017 at 8:12 AM  
Blogger Cathy Hoff said...

Yay! A new cart. Hoping to get a ride one day?

April 18, 2017 at 12:05 PM  
Blogger John Taylor said...

This blog is where I first learned about you when you first arrived in Vermont. While I follow you on your different social media accounts I will always come to the blog and read. Sometimes you just have to declutter anything that will mess up you mental health. Keep up the great work!

Grace and peace,

John

April 19, 2017 at 1:01 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I get how it seems like people are always bragging on face book. I don't know how many strangers you had on face book. But, I would think life events of friends regardless if good or bad would be something you would want to know. Maybe you should have set up an account just for your business and one for your personal life. That is probably the secret, separate your personal life from your business. Good luck!

April 19, 2017 at 8:26 PM  
Blogger Jacey Storer said...

I tip my hat to you. Enjoy your new found freedom.

April 20, 2017 at 9:12 PM  
Blogger Justine said...

Yes! I just realized you were gone and came right over to check your blog... I originally found you on this site and now I will just check here more often and honestly I am super close to doing this as well I just sell lots of stuff on Facebook so that would be the hard part but yes the big F is a huge addiction for me! I will always read your blog no matter how much our opinions differ you are the original person who set me on the track to farming and I will forever be grateful to you!

April 21, 2017 at 6:06 AM  

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