Friday, February 5, 2016

Trained

I have been trained by enough readers of this blog not to share bad news. The only outcome is judgement. If I talk about fears involving money; I am begging for help or asking for a handout. If I talk about losing an animal; I was a bad care giver and I don't even deserve to grieve. If I share a story about a sad event; I am pathetic and looking for attention. If I talk about anything controversial - from not liking cats to national politics - I am somehow offending a stranger. One time I tweeted about about not thinking highly of adult coloring books as the new national pastime and I got a half-dozen twitter and facebook messages about my "hate speech" towards coloring books. I refused to respond to those messages. I draw the line at arguing with adults about color books.

This might be just 10% of the emails and comments I get, but that ten percent tears me apart. I have gotten to a place in my blogging life where I am scared to write anything raw anymore. Scared to post pictures of my flawed house, messy yard, or anything flawed with animals or my own highly-imperfect self and life. As a single woman it is getting downright scary to read the things men will say in an email with no name attached to it.

I read once (in a quote I don't know the author of, sorry author) that writers need to have a thin skin to create anything beautiful and a thick skin to share it with the world. I don't have a thick skin, at all. Which is why I ride draft horses, hunt with hawks, shoot a heavy bow, study martial arts, run for miles, and have a farm - because I am trying to become the strong woman all of you think I am. That I dream of being. That I am not. I'm just a broken person like everyone else. A broken person who taught herself that writing makes the bad feelings go away. Or, used to.

So I'll say this. I had a horrible day. I wanted to write here on this blog about it, but winced soon as I opened the post screen. The fall out that might come back to because of it, just the fear of it alone, made me feel like a kicked dog. That fear of going to bed expecting the trigger storm of comments and emails and blog posts and phone calls was an even worse feeling. There is nothing as sickening to me as being scolded by other adults as an adult. Because I believe every word of it alone in the dark on a cold night.

I have been trained to shut up. Tonight I am shutting up.

68 Comments:

Blogger crb said...

I can feel your pain from here, sister. Whisper your day to a stone, then go bury it in the dark and forget about it. The coming new moon is a good time to rid yourself of such stuff.

Or you could always just disable comments... (:

February 5, 2016 at 6:17 PM  
Blogger nancmcp said...

Sending love and peace. You rock.

February 5, 2016 at 6:24 PM  
Blogger mdoe37 said...

I'm not sure I could blog like you do.....well in fact I don't. I barely have a Facebook page because some of the things I do, well aren't necessarily politically correct.

Those of us who are not judgmental azzhats stand in support of you, because we've all been there on some level. Heaven knows I've been ridiculed for perceived weirdness. Your rind will thicken with age, and wrinkle too.

One thing you might consider, and I don't know how she does it.....another blogger has password protected content. All the light stuff goes public and all the crap is undercover. http://wantingwhatyouhave.com/

Look up, girl.

(and I don't mind the state of your house at all.....makes me feel like a flippin Martha Stewart lol)

February 5, 2016 at 6:27 PM  
Blogger Susan said...

Ugh, I'm so sorry that you don't feel comfortable to tell your story on your own blog. I can tell it was a historically bad day for you. Sending positive vibes from Maine. :-)

February 5, 2016 at 6:27 PM  
Blogger Linda said...

I wish there was something I could say to make this all go away.I hope you don't let the few set the bar for who you are and are striving to be.I feel your pain and sadness...sending Peace and good thoughts to you. Thats what everyone should do for their fellow man or sister. You are a good person don't ever forget that.....Peace be with you.

Linda

February 5, 2016 at 6:29 PM  
Blogger Plain Jane said...

I have started keeping a private blog where I can rant and rave and complain and get things out of my system without offending anyone.
Maybe that could work for you.
I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you.

February 5, 2016 at 6:41 PM  
Blogger Michael said...

Hope things get better. They usually do.

Next time you run into one of those 10%er horrible people tell them Michael Crites of Spokane, Washington says to fuck off.

February 5, 2016 at 6:45 PM  
Blogger Laurie said...

It's a shame you have to deal with that. I appreciate your sharing of yourself and your life. We are all broken, trying to remember our wholeness. I expect the judgers judge themselves as much, though that's small comfort on a cold, dark night. Hang in there, and try not to let them get you down.

February 5, 2016 at 6:45 PM  
Blogger Tina Hvizdos said...

Sorry your day was terrible, hope tomorrow is better. As for the haters who can only be judgemental, let them judge themselves first.

February 5, 2016 at 6:45 PM  
Blogger PansWife said...

Have you thought about shutting down the comment section here and maybe changing your email? Do you really need all this feedback that people throw at you (like I'm doing now). Back in the Jurassic period of the internet I used to follow what was more of a website than a blog by a homesteading couple. There was no place to put comments and I don't remember there being an obvious contact email. They just updated their website on a weekly basis telling about their lives and posting photos. People could read along and follow them quietly.

Hoping whatever is wrong will all work out (I'm going to assume that puppy Friday is still okay).

PS: Emails from hostile or suggestive males would scare the heck out of me too. Forget the lions and tigers and bears - when you're a women, these type of men are the scariest thing in the world - and probably the biggest threat to our safety. You might want to speak to the police about them and see if the emails can be traced.

February 5, 2016 at 7:06 PM  
Blogger Karen S said...

Hi Jenna, you don't know me but I have followed your books and blog for a long time. Your blog today had me in tears. I'm so sorry to hear that you don't feel like you can write what you want on your own blog/facebook. It is very sad to have things come to the state where you (and others) are afraid of what people might say or do. I admire that you are living your life the way you want to. It is what I wanted to do 35 years ago but was afraid to do on my own so I live my alternate life through your words. I enjoy reading about your life, good and bad. I hope that whatever happened today was not something serious and/or longlasting and that tomorrow will be better for you.

February 5, 2016 at 7:50 PM  
Blogger Amy said...

Jenna - I'm so sorry that you've been having such a rough time. And it really sucks that people are so judgmental about your decisions. I don't comment often, but I wanted to let you know that one of the things I love the most about your blog is how honest and real you are about the things that are good, the things that are hard and the things that make your way of life worthwhile. I don't know if telling you this will help you at all, but I figured I should at least give it a try. I just would like to remind you that there are folks who come here for the exact kind of writing that you're now struggling with. Be well and take care of yourself.

February 5, 2016 at 8:14 PM  
Blogger Janet Hamilton said...

We are all flawed. When I had my farm, I screwed up so many times, I lost count. I didn't write so much back than, but I felt judged. Screw the people who judge you. Write for you and the rest of us that want to hear your voice. Just keep writing.

February 5, 2016 at 8:20 PM  
Blogger Dune Grass Designs said...

Jenna, you are brave because you do things you're afraid of every day and you are strong because you have been brave for so long. Call the police and report the threats. Pity the rest of them because they are the weak who live in fear of ever taking a chance.

February 5, 2016 at 8:22 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Hugs, kiddo. I hope the night off helps a bit.

February 5, 2016 at 8:28 PM  
Blogger anne said...

Hi Jenna, don't give up writing the way you want to, and must! Do you have a trusted friend that could run interference for you and get rid of all the crapola comments so you don' t have to see them? (Disclaimer: I'm not savvy in the ways of social media, so perhaps there are flaws in my suggestion.) Nevertheless, you are a clever girl! You will figure out a way to sweep away the useless, and proceed with the priceless.

February 5, 2016 at 8:48 PM  
Blogger anne said...

Hi Jenna, please continue to write the way you want to, and must. Do you perhaps have a trusted friend who can run interference for you and get rid of all the crapola so you don't have to see it? (Disclaimer: I'm an old gal and not savvy in the ways of all this techy stuff, so perhaps my suggestions is flawed.) Nevertheless, don't let what is useless keep you from doing what is priceless.

February 5, 2016 at 8:54 PM  
Blogger Melissa said...

I have been following you for about 4 years; blog and books. I am just starting to blog about our farm, and I know that you have been through these negative times in the past and it has already made me very cautious about what I put out the to world. Guess our farms should only portray the furry, cute, sweet side of having animals, not the mud, shit, sometimes gruesome side of it. Farming is a fairy tale, and bad things happen in fairy tales too.

February 5, 2016 at 9:03 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Stay strong and lean on all those who believe in you. Easier said than done but you are incredibly strong already.

February 5, 2016 at 9:12 PM  
Blogger Melinda Ruth said...

Hi Jenna - Why don't you just not accept comments for those posts? The other 90% of us actually want to hear about the good, the bad and the ugly because that is life. I admire the tender warrior that you are. It's great to learn from a woman who faces life head on and becomes stronger from all that she experiences. I hope all is well and that a new day is dawning.

February 5, 2016 at 9:18 PM  
Blogger Sharon said...

Hi Jenna, I am sending you some love tonight. I like to read your posts about the real life that you experience. I then feel a shared lifestyle. A community of readers are a great asset. Unfortunately, many of your supporters, readers, and fans...do not comment to show their understanding. I think that the haters are really attempting to harm you because they are mean, hateful people...looking for any reason to attack you personally. I have a blog, and I do not write posts about my hunting, abuse, depression, and my haters. I have fear. I understand. Take Care!

February 5, 2016 at 9:36 PM  
Blogger Goose Goose said...

Pitty Party.

We've all been there. Don't stay long because many of us think you're fun to follow and we don't heckle too much.

You do take a risk when you put your thoughts on a blog in which you use for your primary income.

Consider the disable button as they say above. Keep it to YOU, Jenna-the-Magnificent. Then you won't have to worry. And don't share everything from your blog on Twitter and Facebook. Keep it to the blog. Curb it. Control it. Feel better. I quit several social media outlets. I don't have to worry about how things are interpreted now, because they aren't out there. Think about it. We all have the right to remain silent. :)

February 5, 2016 at 9:44 PM  
Blogger Shelley said...

Hi Jenna, I work in a high school and if the police can figure out all the ins and outs of the kids cyber bullying each other, I am sure that they can trace your threatening emails also. I don't blame you for being nervous. I am still amazed that these types of people have that much time and energy on their hands. I appreciate all of your stories, the good and the bad. There are many blogs out there by perfect people with perfect families and perfect houses and perfect lives, but it is not true. I don't believe that you should endure criticism because you keep it real. I for one, am happy to hear about your problems and still see you reaching for your dreams! Thank you.

February 5, 2016 at 9:46 PM  
Blogger Richard Byer said...

Count my wife and me as part of the 90%. Thanks for showing us your imperfect life and taking us away from ours once in a while.

Tomorrow will be better. Chin up and keep on with what you do - it is much appreciated by many of us out here.

February 5, 2016 at 9:48 PM  
Blogger Goose Goose said...

p.s. go back to your post about in-between times.

Tomorrow will be better. or Maybe next week. Chin up, kid.

February 5, 2016 at 9:51 PM  
Blogger DarcC said...

I hope you're ok. Is it something you can post about on the clan blog? Or, write it anyway, just don't hit publish.

February 5, 2016 at 10:04 PM  
Blogger Becky B said...

My mom used to tell me that bad times never last forever. And they don't. We are pulling for you and you are a brave, strong woman. Don't let the bastards get you down!

February 5, 2016 at 10:05 PM  
Blogger sarah e blog said...

my 92 yr old great grandmother gave me advice on being me after i fear i had of being judged and whatt she told still rings true for me, she said "at some point in life you let go of your fears and choose to be yourself, flaws and all, because really hunny nobody who says negative things towards you is anybody you should give a fuck about"...seriously my gran ma sweet farm lady who took no bs said those words to me....i for one love reading about your trials as a have similar ones my self..its all life and those creepy men? well you do own a gun..heehee

February 5, 2016 at 10:41 PM  
Blogger Grace in a china cup said...

My dear, some people just like to tell other people what to do. Don't pay any attention to them. But, please don't stop your writing. It's what you do and it is part of you. I have purchased three of your books and started the blog from the beginning and feel like I have shared in your adventures. I have been with you when you had to give up your goat; I was with you when your landlady pinned the note to your door; I have shared your recipes and cheered when you got Maude. Continue to share your world with those of us that just can't wait to cheer you on. You go girl!

February 5, 2016 at 11:01 PM  
Blogger Mel Baker said...

Don't you dare EVER shut up!!
To those that criticize and scold - it must be nice to be so bloody perfect that you can be judging everyone else and doing so through the anonymity of a computer like a bunch of cowards.
GROW UP OR FUCK OFF!!!!!!

February 5, 2016 at 11:05 PM  
Blogger aunt susy said...

You poor dear. I don't know why anyone would read another person's blog and then tear them down. You pour out your heart, the wonderful, lovely, good, bad, sad, ugly, scary. If they don't like it they can shut up and leave. I don't know how this blog thing works but you need delete and block buttons. I f they want to read and then critique your life because they think reading it gives them that right, well...fuck them and the horse they wish they rode in on.

February 5, 2016 at 11:36 PM  
Blogger Joleen said...

I hate mean people - especially when they hurt you. All my peace, love and hugs to you. I've been here with you since the very beginning and want you to know how much you mean to me.

February 6, 2016 at 12:58 AM  
Blogger John H said...

Wanted to add my voice to the chorus of support. I've been following you for years (mostly silently), and you were one of the inspirations for my wife and I to get some land and start homesteading. Those people who want to tear you down haven't had their life on the line like you do, so their opinion shouldn't matter. I know that doesn't make it any easier.

Sorry you had a horrible day, and especially sorry you don't feel like you can share it here.

-John H (blogger and my google identity aren't playing well together)

February 6, 2016 at 1:14 AM  
Blogger Kate said...

Wow it must have really sucked since you were pretty open about the Friday and Rogain thing! I could just hear the bitching about that event. I thought it was pretty funny now that Friday didn't take any harm from it. Reminds me of the time our shepherd got the huge tube of desiden baby cream and smeared it all over himself and the upstairs. We were finding white grease for months!
You know if people cant be civil then turn off the comments on the blog completely. You have a FB page and you can block the crap out of all the assholes there. Life is too short to take abuse. Its also too short to silence yourself. As you get older you will find you care less and less. But I remember how painful other peoples words can be at your age. At 55+ your skin is thicker and more dried out. Keep keeping on there sister, snuggle with some 4 paws and f everybody else.

February 6, 2016 at 1:36 AM  
Blogger Briton Wolcott said...

WHAT! Don't "shut up"...
What you have done in your life has a significant meaning to close to three thousand people (probably more as I have taken this statistic from the number below your youtube videos). There is nothing wrong with self expression. Don't let people get under your skin. I left a quote on one of your videos earlier today; 78 or 79 I think. I don't get to watch it that often anymore but when I do I enjoy it emensley(spelling correction because I'm a dumb country boy living in Tennessee). At any rate I have lived by this quote for a long time because I have had a difficult life.

"A person is smart. People are dumb, panicky dangerous animals and you know it"

Tommy Lee Jones - Men In Black

Just because that 10% want to be childish morons doesn't mean that you have to settle for that label. I mean, come on... Lucas and Brian(I believe are the name of your turkeys) and Gibson and the rest of your family are living biological proof that you do fine by your animals. Don't "shut up". You mean more to people than you think and if I could make more of a contribution other than watching your Vlogs and making posts then I would. I don't mean to overly expose my androgynous side but it saddens me to see such a wonderful being feel thrashed by the very people she seeks to enlighten.

I respect what you do and I know I have probably written way too much so I will leave you with this

Aho Mitakuye Oyasin

Keep up your hard work.

February 6, 2016 at 2:02 AM  
Blogger Melissa Koscinski said...

I will tell you what I told my daughter when others hurt her with words. The reason they lash out is because they have nothing in their lives that makes them happy, and need to cause others pain for their enjoyment. If you respond to them they continue, if you ignore them they move on to their next victim. Move on from them and only pay attention to the positive people, your life will be so much happier when you do. Does what the others think really matter, or what your friends and family think? Hugs!

February 6, 2016 at 4:14 AM  
Blogger Sparkless said...

I'm pretty sure we all have stories people would judge us harshly for too. It sucks that so many people feel the need to tear other people down instead of lift them up in their time of need. I like reading about flaws and mistakes that other people have or made because it makes me realize how much the same we all are. It makes me feel even more human because if you can make a mistake or have a bad day so can I and that makes me feel better. Not that I feel good if you have a bad day but that when I have a bad day I feel like I'm part of the "bad day tribe" and I'm not alone. It's okay to mess up or have a really bad day because a whole bunch of other people will be joining me and we can all commiserate together.

So to all of you judgers and nasty commenters, just take yourselves away somewhere where everyone is perfect and no one ever makes a mistake or has a bad day because you don't belong her anyway.

February 6, 2016 at 5:13 AM  
Blogger Harmony Hill said...

The positive comments and encouragement are bountiful whether people actually type them to you or just think them. Not everyone is going to agree with all of your values and that's normal. We're all finding our way and it's ever changing. If you need to close down comments in order to co tiniest writing, shut them down. I suspect that would not be your answer though, you're such a curious, questing, searcher. You're never intentionally taking missteps and you're a dedicated hard worker. Please think as positively as you can. Mean people should not matter but often we let their words matter more than the words of our most loving tribe members.

February 6, 2016 at 6:29 AM  
Blogger FAST SOS said...

Fuck them if the have time to criticise they obviously don't have enough going on in their own life. You're getting shit done, you're an excellent writer and an amazing talented person. The people throwing stones ought to look at the big old greenhouse they live in first. If you offend them it's cos their parents raised a pussy, that ain't your fault. If people want to get their panties all twisted up in a bunch it is much more a reflection on them than it is on you. Keep up the good work girl, never mjnd the haters
All the best
FAST SoS

February 6, 2016 at 7:06 AM  
Blogger E said...

You are brave to share as much as you do. Do what is right for you.

February 6, 2016 at 7:23 AM  
Blogger Christina Rodriguez said...

Everything works out. Try not to worry about idiots.

February 6, 2016 at 7:39 AM  
Blogger Harmony Hill said...

Continue. Auto-schmautođź‘€

February 6, 2016 at 7:56 AM  
Blogger gothicmuse said...

I am not much of a "comment maker," but I do enjoy your life stories. It helps those who have the idea that homesteading/farming is easy to understand that it can be a hard life, but when it is the life that you have chosen for yourself, then there is so much positive that comes out of either confronting a problem and solving it or just hanging in there and accepting that not everything resolves perfectly or as we would wish.

Talk with your friends and anyone else who will give you the straight skinny on yourself and your problems. I agree with those who posted before me and encourage you to, perhaps, give commenting a rest. Constructive criticism is helpful, destructive criticism only serves to make the critic feel superior. Let them come and deal with your level of stress and problem management for a day and they would run screaming into the night, if they even lasted the whole day.

The saying, "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger" is very true, but hard to appreciate in the throes of painful thoughts. Deep breaths and some distance will hopefully give you the strength to continue sharing your life. If not, your life will just go on behind the curtain...

Jo

February 6, 2016 at 7:58 AM  
Blogger mdoe37 said...

A little more age to you gets this, Jenna....

Well, shouldn't be all bad in the morning. She said she was going to bed....

at least the house didn't burn down.......

******

People don't like and cannot accept women with brass. Their loss. I'll be damned if I'm going to go through life with gel nails and glitter on my jean pockets so someone else feels comfortable.


*****

Of course, I had a giggle last night about what I was not posting on Facebook. I'm mentally constructing quail cages and how to slant the floor so the eggs automatically roll out. Seriously, do you think anyone I went to school with wouldn't think I was a freak job? They would, when all they do is post endlessly about their grandbabies....and I don't have those things. So that automatically makes ME weird.

I opted Saturday to post about what I did that day, only no pictures or text....just the GPS coordinates. I went squirrel hunting. Just sayin

February 6, 2016 at 8:57 AM  
Blogger Christian Creek Outdoors said...

I enjoy your blog "because"of the imperfections you tell us about. There are way too many blogs with the perfectly spotless chicken house, clean animals with a cute decorated barn, time to craft gorgeous items, etc., etc. I end up thinking, "What am I doing wrong?" In the real world we are not perfect. People are way too fast to criticize when they haven't walked the walk.

February 6, 2016 at 9:03 AM  
Blogger Sharon said...

I like your blog because of the imperfections. There are too many blogs with cute little chicken houses, horse barns without a single cobweb, time to make crafty little gardens, etc. etc. It creates unrealistic expectations and makes me feel like, "what am I doing wrong?" They don't mention that they have someone come to clean their house every week, have workers to clean out their barns, have four chickens to clean up after, all the things that make it a side hobby rather than a living. It creates unrealistic expectations. In real life accidents happen. Things aren't always cute and perfect. People shouldn't judge unless they've lived the life you're living.

February 6, 2016 at 9:08 AM  
Blogger Shannon said...

Disable the comments. I noticed a big difference in your writing when you disabled them before!! People are assholes.

February 6, 2016 at 9:23 AM  
Blogger Kris said...

Jenna, that's one of the reasons I like you and your blog so much. Total honesty. I mean really, who raises pigs and chickens for pets anyway? There's no way I am going to raise a pig for a pet. I like bacon too much! And by the time that darn pig is 300 pounds, I am ready to shoot it myself! And I do not like cats either. I have 4 old cats left. And when they're gone, I may not ever get anymore. And I am so sick of dog hair all over my house, I might never have another dog either. Why can't we just be honest and say what we feel? I'm glad you did that video. Who knows how many people use Rogaine and have cats too. You probably saved many cats. And dogs too. I am glad you share all the bad and scary stuff. Keep doing it!! People need to know that living on a farm with livestock and pets is not all it's cracked up to be at all. Thank you for writing about the whole picture.

February 6, 2016 at 10:23 AM  
Blogger Debby said...

I get tired of Blogs where everything is rainbows and unicorns...please don't shut up !!!

February 6, 2016 at 10:33 AM  
Blogger Molson said...

Jenna,

A smart and thoughtful woman, with excellent accessments. Hang
in there, as you have before. This world is challenging.

February 6, 2016 at 10:53 AM  
Blogger Pamster said...

Like so many have already posted...

I appreciate your raw posts. No true adventure is sunny and easy every day. Your brutiful honest posts keep the rest of us homestead dreamers grounded. I'm sorry you feel as though you can't share but I totally understand. It's a strange world we live in. Hang tough girl.

February 6, 2016 at 12:12 PM  
Blogger cjbstar said...

Jenna, I have read every post on your blog, and I have thoroughly enjoyed them. You are a determined woman who marches to the sound of her own drum. You make your own happiness. That is a good thing and please don't let anyone make you feel bad. I am 59 and the older I get the more I realize there are more unhappy, insecure people in the world than happy ones. There are thousands of reasons for any of us to be unhappy and wallow in self pity and misery. Life is far too short to do so. Unhappy, insecure people love to judge and try their best to make other people unhappy. There is another group of people who think their way of thinking is the only way and most become quite radical. Most of this is from a lack of apathy, fear, knowledge, and experiences. Free speech is a wonderful thing, but there will always be fanatics who rant against the very freedoms that allow them to rant.
Keep marching, Jenna.

February 6, 2016 at 12:29 PM  
Blogger Dorothy M. said...

You can just disable your comments. I think I'd do that. You will never please everyone all the time. Just a fact of life.

February 6, 2016 at 3:14 PM  
Blogger Jenna Woginrich said...

To all of you who commented: Thank you. Thank you so much for these kind words and encouragement. You can tell when I need it, and I did. I still do. And I haven't had to delete (well, not allow) a comment for a while and there are only 5 names on the "don't read just delete" list. None of those people dared comment on this post though.

I just posted about today, and how stressful it has been but gratifying. I am home and working into my Saturday night trying to wrangle some logo and workshop sales and figure out the next mortgage payment soon as possible. I can feel myself running out of gas but even if I just update work for three clients it is less work for tomorrow and they are patiently waiting for their logos and such. In 2 years I only had to refund 2 people who weren't happy with my work. I have about a 98% happy customer rate so far!

As for comments: I won't disable them unless they get too personal again. Because if I did I wouldn't have gotten over 50 messages of support I needed like a thirsty woman needs cold water. Nothing but support came out of this post. I am very grateful for you all.

Time to get to work!

February 6, 2016 at 3:37 PM  
Blogger Chris Hughes said...

Jenna I am in the process of reading all of your books YOU ARE AN AMAZING writer!!!! I have fallen in love with your story and your books! Ignore what these people say and remember what all of the other GOOD comments say! There are people like me :) that adore your blog, books, and you! Jenna lift your head up high and be PROUD!!!!

February 6, 2016 at 5:01 PM  
Blogger Elle Cashen said...

Please keep being brave and sharing! Reading your blog is often a highlight in my day. I love knowing all about the farm and you and your interesting life. Yes, I said interesting. I always feel excited when there is a new post. I am sorry that people are so mean. I experienced a mean put down on Facebook when I shared. It was from a friend of a friend and she obviously didn't "get me" and felt the need to rip me to shreds. It was awful. Ultimately, after reading the positive comments of friends she apologized. We are no longer FB friends and I know longer post anything interesting about my life because of the fear you describe. I am too sensitive. Anyways, you just keep being Jenna and know that out here in the wide world you are appreciated and valued! I am really impressed that you fixed the truck with duct tape and baling wire. That is just so great!

February 6, 2016 at 5:14 PM  
Blogger Justine said...

Jenna we are all flawed and some of us just dont realize it and judge others. i for one love all of your post and most especially love your vlogs and blogs because you are so real and share it all the good the bad and the ugly.I really hope this funk passes soon for you and you have some happier days ahead. Hugs from Maine!

February 6, 2016 at 6:28 PM  
Blogger lemontreelane said...

I love reading everything you write. Without judgement. What's that Dr Suess quote? "Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter". You are a rock star. Keep rockin'

February 6, 2016 at 10:57 PM  
Blogger spinnersaw said...

Sorry Jenna, you poked at a bear (people who enjoy coloring), the bear gets to poke back.

February 7, 2016 at 1:32 PM  
Blogger Chuck & Bonita said...

You are sharing not only your life but your heart. It is brave beyond words. I have followed your blog since I bought your first book, which I then gave one to each of my granddaughters.
The people who say negative things accomplish nothing in their life. They don't understand the struggles and failures that come of accomplishment and serving a dream. Ignore them, they are not worthy of your time.

February 7, 2016 at 4:38 PM  
Blogger Morgan Shafer said...

You are a wonderful blogger and a great writer; don't listen to those nasty few, Jenna! I can't tell you how much I admire your spunk and verve--you bravely follow your dreams and take the necessary risks to do that. It is SO easy for people on their computers to be armchair quarterbacks, and to be lulled into the false belief that you are some sort of fictional character on their monitors, forgetting that you are a real human being with feelings. And you can't prepare for every single possible outcome, all the time. Stuff happens. I thought you were incredibly brave for posting the thing about Friday and the Rogaine. Don't let the jerks overpower the good things in your life (but they would upset me, too), and please don't be afraid to post your life, in whatever form it takes! Life has its ups and downs, and I for one have never been one for the Hallmark version of things! Farm life is poop, and I guess the comment section of any blog is going to have its share of manure, too.

February 7, 2016 at 7:59 PM  
Blogger Jacquie said...

Fuck em! I know. I'm cussing and my comment won't be approved. But honestly. This is why so many folks sit on their dreams. They refuse to see the unedited version of life. It's messy. Ugly. Untidy.

Be who you are. Nobody agrees on everything.

February 7, 2016 at 8:30 PM  
Blogger Cathy said...

Jenna....I'm an older woman...well, in my mid 50's and I just LOVE your blog and the way you share you life with us. Please keep it real and being you.

Blessings to you Jenna!!

February 7, 2016 at 8:47 PM  
OpenID cestlavietlb said...

Block the trolls. You wouldn't tolerate a rude unkind unfriendly and downright dangerous person into your physical home would you? Well this is your HOME. It may be digital not physical but it's still a place of safety.

Block the trolls. Zero tolerance.

Sorry you've had a shite day. Even more sorry that your once safe space to vent and gain support is no longer that.

February 8, 2016 at 2:17 AM  
Blogger Cat H said...

Mean people suck. Fuck 'em. We love you!!!

February 8, 2016 at 10:04 AM  
Blogger Kitty Betzoldt said...

When things got too nasty on a homesteading forum which shall remain nameless, a bunch of us started a private group on Facebook where we can freely ask questions about goats and share our lives without the interference of the trolls. Maybe you could do something like that? Keep your open Facebook page but start a private group for those of us who understand the farm life and want only to offer help and support! I volunteer to be the first member of that private group ;)

Kitty

February 8, 2016 at 11:42 AM  
Blogger Jennifer Mitton said...

Hi Jenna! I've only commented a time or two before, but I have been following your blog for 3 years now. When I was told to check out your blog by a friend, I went back and read all your prior entries! I feel that if we lived closer we would be great friends, our lives have many parallels. (err ... sorry I sound stalkerish) It hurt me to read your entry today, as I LOVE your blog, I check into your site several times a day in hopes that you have written another entry. We all have our good days and our bad days and I feel that you are incredibly brave to write about both types of experiences. I have thought about writing a blog, but I know that I am way too sensitive to handle the negative comments. I teach farming at a boys middle school in Massachusetts, I too have had unfortunate experiences, and I take all of my boys comments to heart. Many of them are too young to know that it's not polite to point out other's shortcomings or mistakes. They have helped me toughen my skin throughout the years. I along with the other people who have left comments, support you through the good days and bad, and look forward everyday to an update on how your life is going! I love your vlogs as well and wish you would do a "Day in your life" video tour, they are my favorite to watch!!! Best wishes -Jennifer-

February 8, 2016 at 11:59 AM  
Blogger Frederick Woodruff said...


I just discovered your blog/site from your great new essay on the Guardian's site, about ditching your phone -- and I love it.

Fuck the scolds and trolls -- sad creatures with nothing in life except envy and too much time. (I grapple each month with just shutting down the comment section on my site, and may eventually do that.)

Thanks again

FW

PS: How dare you dis adult coloring books!

:-0

:-)

February 12, 2016 at 1:21 AM  

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