Monday, September 24, 2012

pointing fingers at grief

Thank you for the warm wishes about George. It means a lot of get the comments and emails. It's such a simple thing, to send a letter or note saying you are sorry and understand, but it can buoy a person towards a better day. I woke up to a big list of comments to approve and all of them were kind. It was so appreciated, please know that. I wish I could say the same about the emails and facebook messages...

I have no idea what killed George, I found him long gone when I returned from my short weekend away. Plenty of cat owners leave on a Friday and get back on a Sunday and all it requires is a clean litter box and plenty of food and fresh water. George had those things in a house he had been living in for nearly a year. It was a complete surprise to find him gone. You just don't worry about cats, they are their own vessels, self contained units that only need the ingredients of ownership around to be ridiculously content. I think that's why folks love cats so much. You put out a box of sand, a bowl of krunchies, and offer a sunny window and they take those few things and become a part of a life. I worried about the horses, Jazz and Annie, the fences and the sheep but I never thought to worry about George.

Sometimes as a blogger you get worried about sharing things like this. I never used to worry about sharing everything, but I do find myself hesitating now. I worry if I write about losing an animal people will assume I did something to that animal. That loss is failure, as a farmer and as a caregiver. There are people out there who care a lot more about animals in general than their fellow humans writing about them and instantly assume the animal was a victim and the human incompetent. I know this because as soon as last night I got emails telling me what I did wrong and how I should not have animals at all. They are harsh, mean-spirited things to read and I wonder what kind of person take anothers grief and turns it into a pointed finger? I'm an animal, too. Why do "animal lovers" not realize that? They wouldn't kick a dog when it was down, so why me? To readers who read this blog looking for something to criticize, I ask that you back down on this. George was a loving, sweet, and sassy animal and fairly old and overweight. It was his time.

Truth is on a farm with this amount of life there has to be some death. It's a numbers game, the odds dangle in some critters favor and not others. I don't know if it is actually possible to kill a goose, honestly? Some chickens beat the clock and seem to have been here forever. And then some animals that share your bed and start every morning purring into your lap just leave. The only thing we really have after an pet dies is our integrity and gratitude. We do our best, so did George.

I'm going to go back to writing about the farm and the fair. If the transition from grief to excitement seems harsh, that is not my intention. Blog posts are postcards from a person's life. And just like the real thing, everything changes fast.

69 Comments:

Blogger Karen C said...

So sorry to hear about George. Take care.

September 24, 2012 at 7:12 AM  
Blogger Karen Rickers said...

You have such a good outlook on life and death, Jenna, and also on the people who will point the fingers. Those who 'do' will always attract the anger of those who just wish to do. So sorry that you are subjected to their meanness and jealousy.

September 24, 2012 at 7:25 AM  
Anonymous janet gordon said...

I'm sorry George is gone - as caretakers we all must accept that the shorter lives of animals means that grief is part of animal stewardship, and often occurs sooner than we would hope. Too bad it had to happen on the only "time off" you've taken in months, but you can't beat yourself up for that.

September 24, 2012 at 7:27 AM  
Blogger Farmin in WV said...

I tell everyone that on a farm all the animals wake up in the morning and look for a way to die that day. It is frustrating.
The loss of a house pet is particularly hard! I am sorry to hear of your loss!

September 24, 2012 at 7:37 AM  
Blogger Rich With Life said...

I find it terrible that anyone would criticize you for anything- cats can hide illness incredibly easily. I mourn for your loss, and I hope you take solace in all the wonderful, living animals on your farm. George had a wonderful life.

September 24, 2012 at 7:38 AM  
Blogger Missy said...

I think it is because you share it and people like to assume and read what they are already thinking - without knowing much about the situation. They assume that just because they read your blog on a constant basis that they know you and your home/farm completely. The Internet sucks that way. I usually don't get all "name-call-y." That's not my usual style, but this prejudice gets to me. I think most of them are sad ignorant trolls that don't have much going on in their own lives. That's what they seem like to me, anyway.

I'm so sorry about George. I've had cats my WHOLE life and these things happen. A couple of cats my family had just died in their sleep - with no pre-existing conditions (or known ones). It's not just cats who die like this. Animals die like this - as you probably know. Hopefully, he didn't suffer and he knew he had been given a warm home with some awesome dogs and a great biped.

I spoil my cats rotten and when my SIXTEEN year old cat became ill with CRF last year, I had people still question/judge our decision to put him down and out of his misery. They assumed a lot and I chalked it up to their trying to come to terms with some of their own decisions that they had made. So, when people judge harshly, it's rarely about you, but about their own view of themselves.

I'll end this rant - because it could go on and on. I'm glad you share, but I do agree that sometimes one has to hesitate before writing and sharing. It can save your own sanity.:)

Much love!



September 24, 2012 at 7:52 AM  
Blogger Lilac Hill said...

Sorry for your loss. Sorry also for the mean spirited posts. They are so unnecessary.I know that George had a very contented stay on Cold Antler Farm, how could he not?

September 24, 2012 at 8:07 AM  
Anonymous Ellie said...

I am not a blogger but still an internet personality. I build games instead of make posts but I have so had to deal with this same shit. I too am often scared to share things about my life. There is the part of me that worries if my address gets out something bad might happen to my animals because of someone who for what ever reason decides they don't like me. I think for people who are not "internet famous" that idea seems paranoid and unfathomable but I have seen how bitter and nasty and crazy people are and I have had my friends and friends of friends harassed before because someone decided to take it upon themselves to be nasty and they wanted a target.

I don't know why people choose to act this way online, think they can call us animal abusers, call us names, insult us. I do know though that it has nothing to do with me or you though. The best armor against these horrible cutting comments is knowing in your heart of hearts that you did nothing wrong, and that people are nasty not because of any fault with you but because they simply love to be critical and nasty. After 7 years I have learned that the best way is to simply block these people. It always stings particularly when they knowingly hit you when you are most vulnerable. But the more I do this the more I realize that it does not mater if I do everything perfect or not. Those people, those sorry sad people, will still try to hurt others because that is what they do. They know when we are in pain and strike hardest then.

Don't doubt your self and try not to let those piranhas under your skin. I wish you the best of luck healing from this.

September 24, 2012 at 8:19 AM  
Blogger Kristin said...

I'm so sorry to hear about George. Just don't give up on cats completely! I'm glad you're home safely.

September 24, 2012 at 8:24 AM  
Blogger Moose Hollow Farm said...

Jenna ~ Ignore those terrible emails from people who are bitter in their own lives and, therefore, want everyone else to feel badly about theirs. You are a wonderful person who truly loves animals (we can all clearly see that). Death happens no matter how much we try to keep it away from those we love. Our wonderful dog, Emma, died at 9 years of age because she had cancer. We spent lots of money and time trying to keep her alive but, eventually, she passed. No amount of money, time or care can keep a person or animal alive if it's their time to go. You are a good person who is a friend and we love to read about your life experiences. Keep on blogging &, if I were you, I'd change my email address.

September 24, 2012 at 8:30 AM  
Anonymous TashaMarie said...

Jenna --

I'm so sorry to hear about George! It's awful losing a criddo. It tears right through you, no matter how short your time has been with them.

I'm also sorry to hear about the onslaught that you've had to deal with. It's not right, nor fair. As much as we have "free speech," I'm a firm believer of, "If what you say will hurt someone, don't say it."

I hope the other criddos are giving you extra love in your time of need.

Blessed be, hun.

~ Tasha Marie

September 24, 2012 at 8:35 AM  
Blogger Fresh Eggs Farm said...

I am amazed at the cruelty and harshness of people these days. Typing on the computer, rather than speaking face-to-face, offers some sort of shield and lack of filter and makes people feel like they have the right to bully you. It's unbelievable that, just because you share your stories here for us to learn from, laugh with and cry for - that gives people the right to judge and criticize every move you make. Sad. You did it right. With a cat, you can leave them for a couple of days and leave out a fresh litter box, access to fresh water and enough food. You didn't leave for a week - you left for a couple of days. Don't second guess your decisions because of the lack of filter from a handful of Internet trolls. It's hard enough to lose an animal (no matter what your outlook is on life and death on the farm) - but to have someone chastize you...ugh.
Have a better day and I look forward to hearing about your Mother Earth experience - we were there two years ago and it was a great experience.

September 24, 2012 at 8:52 AM  
Anonymous Candy DeBerry said...

Jenna, my partner and I saw you speak both times Saturday at the MEN Fair, and we were so impressed! We were going to attend your talk on Sunday when we heard you had to go home unexpectedly. We feared for the worst, and we both have heavy hearts to hear of your loss. (We had a Maine Coon cat ourselves for 12 1/2 years.) You will be in our thoughts. I hope that you can consider this a hug of comfort from two new supporters/fans.

September 24, 2012 at 9:03 AM  
Blogger Erika Keller said...

I am so sorry about your loss of George. I am a cat person and he seemed like a great cat. We lost our big orange male in April and watched him go from a happy, purring cat one minute to having some sort of seizure/sroke in front of our eyes. He was gone in less than a minute. There was nothing anyone could have done for him, but the grief was still great.

September 24, 2012 at 9:04 AM  
Blogger Lisa said...

Words so very true, and so very heard

September 24, 2012 at 9:04 AM  
Blogger J.D. Collins said...

Jenna:

It's a hard thing to lose any animal, folks don't understand that. It was George's time, that's all. Simply his time. You could have found him the next morning had you been home.

You don't need rotten comments now. I'm so sorry he's gone. I had cats myself and woke to find one had passed. He had the best care, had been to the vet within the month and was 16 years old. It's chilling. It's sad. It breaks the heart.

Peace and all good things to you.

September 24, 2012 at 9:12 AM  
Blogger Ann said...

Jenna, I am so sorry for your loss. It's so hard to let our animals go as they become like members of our extended family. As you have stated before.......every animal on farms has to have a purpose in order to feed everyone. That doesn't remove the feelings you obviously had for George. Like you, I often wonder about people who have such a strange attachment to animals but a distinct hate for their fellow human beings. Good thoughts coming your way.

September 24, 2012 at 9:13 AM  
Blogger Alison said...

What amazes me is those who repeatedly lambast you--why don't they either call Animal Control on you, or stop reading? If they really want to save animals, there are tons of larger, more abusive farms they should be directing their ire at. Even if you were kicking your chickens every morning, that's nothing compared to the millions of battery-cage hens and CAFO steers out there.

But as you know, rationality often has little to do with our relationship to animals.

September 24, 2012 at 9:20 AM  
Anonymous Barbara said...

Having read your books and your blog it is clear you have a good, loving, caring heart and give all your animals a great home. Thank you for giving George that and loving him. My deepest sympathies to you at losing him. Take care, Jenna,

September 24, 2012 at 9:28 AM  
Blogger kwdiving said...

I am sorry for your loss, but people need to face facts, animals die. Just like people. We dont always know why. It is a part of the lifecycle we have tried to remove ourselves from, but it is always there. Blaming you is useless and cruel.

September 24, 2012 at 9:30 AM  
Blogger Megan, Rudy's mom said...

It's not cool that after all you honestly tell us people will try to hurt you. We have a terminally ill cancer dog and my wost fear is coming home to find her in a bad way. As caretakers of our animals that we love I think it's only natural for us to want to be there when they pass, for closure and to know that how they died was in a humane way. Animals die no matter how much extra care you put into them. If those trollers don't get that they aren't true animal people.

September 24, 2012 at 9:46 AM  
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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sorry to read about George. I have two that will be following George before too long. 17 and 18 years old. They definitely don't catch mice but are interested in petting, sleep, food, poop. That's about it. A cat's life.

September 24, 2012 at 9:59 AM  
Blogger Melanie J. said...

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry about George! Totally get what you mean about how cats can police themselves well...we left Figaro for 3-day weekends constantly last fall (my FIL was fighting cancer 2 states away) with nothing but a silo of food, extra water everywhere, and treats tossed at random...probably contributed to some kind of cat version of PTSD, but it couldn't be helped. You worry and pray, and then breathe a sigh of relief afterward...you're such an amazing mommie to your animals! Sending hugs!

September 24, 2012 at 10:08 AM  
Blogger karen said...

Jenna, I am so sorry to hear about your sweet boy George. It is never easy to loose a pet and to come home to find him like that would certainly be devastating. You gave him a great life in the time he was with you, lots of love and affection. Our pets enrich our lives as we do theirs, may you take comfort in all the fun memories you have of him. Karen from CT

September 24, 2012 at 10:21 AM  
Blogger Tina said...

I'm so sorry hear about George...and sorry to hear about the cruelty you received from people who have no heart. Anyone who 'knows' you through your blog, knows you take wonderful care of your critters. To everything there is a season.

September 24, 2012 at 10:29 AM  
Blogger Becki Fairfield said...

So sorry about George! Your thoughts on life and death are right on....you can not have one with out the other. Sometimes we don't know why various animals come into our lives until after they are gone. The magic circle......

September 24, 2012 at 10:36 AM  
Blogger Margie said...

I'm sorry about George. I know what it's like to love and lose cats and dogs. My daughter is a vet.; and we have had a lot of pets, including birds, through the years. Each death was like a stab to the heart.
George is in a place with lots of sunshine and birds to watch.

September 24, 2012 at 10:40 AM  
Blogger Kirsten said...

I am sorry you didn't get to have more time with George. It seems he was quite the character. Life and death are mysteries and those that point fingers without reason often do it because they have issues of their own, nothing to do with you. They will keep doing this, and ultimately all you can do is send them some loving thoughts and move on, which is what you seem to be doing.

September 24, 2012 at 10:44 AM  
Blogger Tina said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss of George. Anyone who 'knows' you through this blog, knows you love and give great care to ALL of your animals. Cruelty from those who don't 'know' you is ridiculous and shows their true heart...one if meanness. What a loss of a full life they are missing out on by this behavior.
As we have always said here...to everything there is a season...we are realists who understand the cycle if life on a farm. I wouldn't change that for the world.

September 24, 2012 at 10:59 AM  
Blogger Debi said...

I'm so sorry that people feel the need to be so hateful to you. I'm sure they're no more perfect in their lives, they just refuse to acknowledge it, as it's always easier to point a finger at someone else.

I know you did your best for George, and the mere fact that you gave him a safe, comfortable home, in his aging years, surely meant the world to him.

September 24, 2012 at 11:02 AM  
Blogger Katie Falkenberg said...

Oh Jenna, so sorry to hear about George. It was clear how much he meant to you and how much joy he brought to your life. all my best.

September 24, 2012 at 11:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

First of all, I am sorry about George, he was a neat cat. Not every cat can live with dogs.
I think it was a bit sad that you weren't near by when he passed for your own feelings. Cats are very independent. I have had cats who go away by themselves when they are sick and about to die and I have to go looking for them. That is the way they are.
We, on the other hand, feel things like guilt (when you shouldn't) All creatures leave this world. That is life. I think your animals are lucky to get to spend their lives on your little farm. Unfortunately there are many people who forget that even we are not here forever and as much as someone loves animals we should treat each other with respect also.
Take care.

Shelley

September 24, 2012 at 11:15 AM  
Anonymous Marlene said...

It is unfortunate that people can be so critical. If they truly understand about animals, they would not have made such ugly comments. You are quite brave putting your thoughts out there in your posts. There will always be "naysayers" as there are many unhappy individuals that would like to make everyone unhappy. Keep your chin up and know that the rest of us support you and understand your loss.

September 24, 2012 at 11:35 AM  
Blogger concertoinv said...

"To everything there is a season..." All life has its time on this earth and you seem like you're doing and giving your best to all of those lives which surround yours (including this community). Sometimes "best" isn't pretty; sometimes honesty can be cruel and raw. Honesty isn't about perfection and your willingness to be honest about the difficult moments in your life can be hard to read about. But your life isn't a piece of fiction with all of the loose ends neatly tied up. I'm so sorry that there are people out there who just can't see that. Soldier on and remember that your have a lot of believers on your side!

September 24, 2012 at 12:04 PM  
Blogger seagoddess said...

How could anyone be mean after the loss of a beloved pet? I'm so sorry. But this internet is a "brave place for cowards" and you didn't deserve to be picked on.

September 24, 2012 at 12:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh Jenna -- I am so sorry to hear about George. We've got two cats on our farm, and they are an endless gift of amusement (like when Wingnut chases the deer down the hill) or frustration (when Mimi won't let us sleep), and I can't imagine life without them. But as a responsible farmer and pet owner, I know that will happen, period. As do you. And you just can't always plan for it, you just do the best you can, give them the best care you can (they all eat better than I do sometimes!) and know that when you go to bed at night, and wake up in the morning to do it all again, you will have done everything you possibly could for their welfare. 'Nuff said.

September 24, 2012 at 12:32 PM  
Blogger redhorse said...

I'm so sorry about George, it's difficult to lose a pet, even if you have many. I hope no one takes this wrong, but I never seem to get lucky and have one of my animals die a quick uncomplicated death. I always have to make that decision, or watch them deteriorate. Every time one of my cats, dogs or horses makes it to an advanced age, I pray they will choose their time and I won't have to. Maybe I don't mean that really, because I love them all. Maybe George just chose his time. He was a good cat.

September 24, 2012 at 12:35 PM  
Blogger polly said...

hear hear, jenna. condolences, and keep striding forward. for the sake of your other animals.
x

September 24, 2012 at 12:41 PM  
Anonymous The Gringa said...

Sorry for the loss of your George. Ignore the haters. They don't know what they are talking about.

September 24, 2012 at 1:01 PM  
Blogger jenomnibus said...

Something that I remembered last night is that Maine Coon cats often have a heart defect, and they can just drop dead at any time without notice. I know this because I've been a cat-sitter in the past, and I took care of a couple of Maine Coons and was warned that this was a possibility. So all you naysayers out there, it's quite possible that there is nothing that Jenna, or any of you, could have done.

September 24, 2012 at 1:21 PM  
Blogger Christee said...

WOW - Sorry to hear about George AND the nasty comments. There are times where I just don't "get" some people, this is one of those times. Keep your chin up Jenna, you're doing am admirable job!

September 24, 2012 at 1:34 PM  
Blogger daisy said...

You don't owe anyone an explanation. Anyone who understands the intent of your blog knows that you care deeply for your critters. I say, let George rest in peace. He knows you loved him and that's all that matters.

September 24, 2012 at 1:39 PM  
Blogger Odd Ducks Farm said...

I love the internet. I really do. I revel in the idea that it is the one truly surprising technology of my lifetime - I didn't see it coming and no one saw it becoming the ubiquitous, amorphous, and encompassing thing it is. Sadly, it has also come about that people think that comments on the internet are innocent and that the rules of decorum and even the golden rule no longer apply. Words have power, why would electronic words have any less? Those people sow and reap hate and it pains me to see it.

Jenna, your cat was loved. That is all that is important. You gave George a good life. Nothing the naysayers, the name callers, or the sanctimonious can say will ever change that. Enjoy the time he had with you and ignore the rest.

My condolences.

September 24, 2012 at 1:51 PM  
Blogger CheshyrCat said...

Things die. It's not your fault just because you weren't there. I wish I could send that to everyone who's sent you a nasty email or comment.

On another, related note, I hope you keep posting about the animals that die and the mistakes you make and the just plain awful days. Homesteading/farming needs a voice that includes all the parts that make one want to give up and hate everything for awhile as well as the parts that keep one going with their exquisite rightness.

September 24, 2012 at 2:38 PM  
Blogger anita said...

I'm so sorry you lost your George. I'm even sorrier that some people made nasty comments when you were already hurting. Some people are just jerks.
Anita

September 24, 2012 at 2:55 PM  
Blogger anita said...

I'm so sorry you lost your George. I'm even sorrier that some people made nasty comments when you were already hurting. Some people are just jerks.
Anita

September 24, 2012 at 2:57 PM  
Blogger ddu said...

I'm sorry for both of you that George was by himself at the end, although cats tend to be solitary even in death. Take comfort from your supporters and discard brutish remarks from others.

Nap in peace, dear George.

September 24, 2012 at 3:00 PM  
Blogger Amanda said...

A dear friend of mine lost her two year old cat this summer due to a massive heart attack during a play session. I've lost three in the last two years. One had polycystic kidney disease, one died suddenly of a massive bacterial infection and one was 20... we believe he finally had a stroke. He died in my arms.

I wonder if people think I am a terrible pet parent. I mean, how would that look to a stranger? Three cat deaths in two years, and I've lost a couple of chickens recently, too. My friends know we spent $6000 in vet bills, hundreds on special food, medicine, subq fluids every other day for the chronically ill kidney patient and the very old one. Sleepless nights, etc. People are too quick to judge. We have all read about how you worry about the animals, how you stay up late and feed them before you feed yourself. I would do, have done, everything for my critters and I'm absolutely sure you are the same.

Don't listen to the naysayers, they obviously have their own issues.

September 24, 2012 at 3:13 PM  
Blogger Joleen said...

((((((((((((Jenna))))))))))))))) hugs for you. I'm sorry George is gone.

September 24, 2012 at 3:17 PM  
Blogger Kate said...

Oh dear George, he took his leave on his own terms. Feisty and snuggly and happy, he was quite a cat-king.
As for the rest, it's all a bunch of gas. A better home no cat could desire.... No a better kingdome no cat could desire.
Death is part of life, to deny it is to deny life itself. I know Gibson, Jazz and Annie will be a comfort, their wisdom surpasses that if some humans.

September 24, 2012 at 3:54 PM  
Blogger Tiffrz-N-Kidz said...

Jenna - I am so sorry to hear about George. And I am sorry that some self-loathing toolheads are out to harsh your mellow. They are the ones with a problem, not you.

Haters gonna hate, please don't change a thing. I personally prefer hearing about the sad along with the good. It keeps things real and in perspective, and helps me plug through when things get rough here, too.

September 24, 2012 at 5:18 PM  
OpenID landlessons said...

Opinions, the old saying goes, are like *******s -- everybody has one. And when it comes to the kinds of mail you've been receiving, it sounds like far too many people have decided to live the saying as well as exemplifying it. Your care and cherishing of George showed every time you wrote of him, and there are plenty who will remember him, as with June Carter awhile back, and remember as we do the care a non-cat person gave those cats, in prose as well in life.

September 24, 2012 at 6:33 PM  
Blogger 2 Punk Dogs said...

So sorry for the loss of George, your description and photos let us see what an awesome cat he was, "like a fat tiger on the lam"!

Anyone who has sent a nasty email or comment should just go away, what good are they doing? My response to them - "thanks for trying to make her feel worse, you ass."

September 24, 2012 at 7:10 PM  
Blogger Megan said...

As someone who had the opportunity to meet and pal around with George a couple of times on visits to your place, I can say with great certainty that this dude was as happy and natural as they come. He clearly felt free to be who he was and got all of his needs met. Many cats in his position are never afforded that sort of life. He was lucky and he seemed to acknowledge it.

It is my honest opinion that people who don't know for certain (you know, by experiencing first hand?) should keep their damn mouths shut, or if they can't control their itchy fingers, they should consider unplugging and getting some perspective.

Rude is rude, internet or in person. Get some manners, people.

September 24, 2012 at 8:01 PM  
Blogger Brenda London said...

so sorry. we have barn cats here, who do visit indoors if only to check in regularly, use a litter pan, eat cheap cat food, but sometimes they just disappear. It is sad, honestly sad and I worry about my other barn cats, cry, feel all the pain. But there is comfort in knowing they live a wonderful and totally useful life. Yesterday I went out to feed my horses to find 2 dead mice neatly lined up in front of the bales...good job! That would have been the work of Homer since Big Mama eats her catch.We have a litter of 4 week old kittens here, animals seem to just gravitate here, pregnant , hungry, whatever. The kittens are used to the dogs, the biggest one, Duke (shep/mastiff) gives them daily baths with his caring licks, so let me know in 4 weeks or so it you'd like one or two. Their mom is a sweet tempered thing, will get spayed as soon as the babes are weaned and we are keeping her.

September 24, 2012 at 8:31 PM  
Blogger marilyn said...

Just so sad about George and whatever happened the way it did. Even sadder that people could be so heartless and mean to criticize you. You know it probably would have happened even if you had been right there and you could not have changed the outcome. I have had lots of cats in my life and sadly, some have disappeared, some died of old age, one had a stroke, one a brain tumor, one diabetic, one of liver cancer---none of it my fault. Still I wished I could have made it different. Take time to remember the good times. You gave him a fantastic life.

September 24, 2012 at 8:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

George was beautiful.. as to why/how he died, it's of no consequence. Instead, he was a part of your life, you gave him a home and love- and new adventures- and that is all you can do. The loss of their little furry selves is part of the equation of sharing your life with them; you have to enjoy it while you can, grieve when it's time, and go on. You might not think you're a 'cat person,' but trust me, you are.. maybe another cat sometime in your future?
Bridgett E.
Southeast CT

September 24, 2012 at 9:51 PM  
Blogger blind irish pirate said...

Sorry to hear about George. The loss of anything warrants a vast onset of emotions, and I think that having to curb your bereavement process for the sake of censorship is a shitty compromise in the blogosphere. I don't get why people on the internet assume that they know so much about a writer's life, based on, as you said, the postcards of life. I spoke very openly about my feelings during the illness of one of my cats a couple years ago, and worried that there would be some kind of offhanded, harsh or cold remark based on choices that my husband and I had to make. Luckily for me, I'm an under the table writer, and no one has the access, energy or balls to say such nasty things - but the opportunity was there, and I accepted it is a reality of blogging. And the only cure for trolls is ignoring them, and to continue to talk openly. Honesty is a band aid, sometimes.

September 25, 2012 at 12:05 AM  
Blogger Rosie said...

So Sorry about George. So sorry you have to deal with a few jerky people...
Treat it like water off a ducks back... let it go.
We love you and wish you the best.
Rosann in Oklahoma

September 25, 2012 at 12:16 AM  
Blogger Sonya said...

I am so very sorry about George..I'd like to say that it shocks me that people sent you such horrible e-mails..but it doesn't and thats equally as sad. People aren't the same anymore. The amount of cruelity we can dish out to one another is mind boggling.

September 25, 2012 at 7:30 AM  
Anonymous Westfarm Goat Mom said...

Very sorry to hear about George. Since he was old, that has to be expected. Consider yourself lucky that he saved you from having to make the decision to put him down. Cats often hide their illnesses until it is too late to do anything. This is a survival mechanism that has developed.
I know he will be missed.
Also very discussed with people that have no clue about the life and death cycle of animals.

September 25, 2012 at 8:11 AM  
Blogger Why's woman said...

Dear Jenna,

I'm sorry that George died. I know the gap in the heart that this leaves. I'm sorry too that some people wrote nasty notes. Your reply was right.

We have a senior citizen cat, and we change the house as she changes. I only hope she dies easily and quickly, as George seems to have.

Very best regards,

Why's Woman

September 25, 2012 at 11:34 AM  
Blogger jules said...

Jenna, I'm so sorry to hear about George. He was one big, beautiful cat. Even though you profess to not being a 'cat person', I know he's left a cat (George) sized hole in your hearts.

Blessings~

September 25, 2012 at 1:40 PM  
Blogger Robyn said...

Jenna,

I am so, so sorry for your loss. He wasn't only loved by you, but by a community of readers. He was lucky to be so loved.

September 25, 2012 at 1:41 PM  
Blogger jennybeast said...

Awww, I'm sorry to hear about George. He was such a beauty, and seemed to fit in well with your tribe. I'm glad he went quickly, and did not suffer a long illness.

September 25, 2012 at 3:34 PM  
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September 25, 2012 at 3:35 PM  
Blogger Holly said...

I am sorry to hear of George's passing. And even more sad to learn that people are so critical of you. Animals often pass when we are gone, or they hide or leave. I believe they sense the ending. You could have been at the grocery store or in the barn. I continue to pray for you as you walk thru grief.

October 4, 2012 at 8:25 AM  

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