Friday, July 20, 2012

progress is slow...

23 Comments:

Blogger Karen Rickers said...

Horses can be stubborn. You sound like you're doing all the right things. You will persevere with that handsome pony!

July 20, 2012 at 11:33 AM  
Blogger redhorse said...

It doesn't matter how slow it is, as long as it's going in the right direction. Some horses can be really weird, they give you such a hard time you think they'll never come around, then one day they decide it isn't worth fighting over, and they rarely give you another problem.

Now to prove I'm not a robot. I've tried to post other times, and it never went through. Guess I can't prove I'm human.

July 20, 2012 at 12:37 PM  
Anonymous Tracie said...

Well Jenna, He sure is handsome. Just a stubborn boy. The best advise I can give is to continue to work on your relationship, gain some confidence and love him through the tough stuff! You can do it and he is smart enough to figure it out. You might have to continue to tweak things until you start speaking the same language. Sit with him, try and get in his head, listen to what he is telling you and you will get to the other side. It isn't that either of you are necessarily doing something wrong, you just have a break down of communication. Tune in subconsciously. You can do it!

July 20, 2012 at 12:39 PM  
Blogger Brenda London said...

Tincture of Time, works for most things, but you know that. isn't it great to know you have time? you are doing fine. I have had a tough week here. one of my mares contracted Potomac and went right into foundering. She is stable and improving now. Everything can be nice and calm one minute and the next minute not so much. that's the nature of how we live though. Merlin is teaching you a whole lot of farm survival skills well beyond riding skills that will serve you well. "slow and steady wins the race", never has that been more true than working with our animals. Your entry on fear was good. as you grow in your farm skills and adjust to living as we do, you will separate fear from worry and concern. We all worry over how we pay our bills(just contact other farmers for more advice in that dept if you need to brainstorm). After years of doing this (many yrs..lol) fear is now reserved for what I feel when I see a horse down, or watch someone get hurt, that whole visceral feeling. After many months of juggling the bills thing and realizing that we all live that way (it's not just you honey) and yet still manage, your fear will abate and you will sleep better(say to yourself "did anyone/anything die today? to get perspective. and if something did die, then you will lose sleep to a good cry, reassure yourself that this is the way it is, and move on). Just an FYI about mortgages: We got a new 2% re-mortgage via the Affordable Home Mortgage plan (O'bama's plan). Took a full yr of submitting documents but we did get it. took $1,000 off our monthly payments. they look favorably on farmers from what we heard, we are very motivated to hanging onto our land which is our lifeblood.if I believed the comments on the web about the plans I never would have applied. Enjoy your weekend upcoming. after the recent rains our gardens will be producing like the blazes. nothing like eating well after all our hard work. I'll be putting up my first batch of pickles. How's your garden doing? Loved seeing you carrot creature. I have never been successful growing carrots. I keep trying using a different approach every season. my failure keeps me humble. Did you grow yours in a raised bed?

July 20, 2012 at 12:44 PM  
Blogger Mary Schroeder said...

comfort and support.

July 20, 2012 at 1:57 PM  
Blogger J.D. said...

Ah, Merlin, you are a funny fellow. You think you're back to the pasture and grass whilst not having to do a lick of work.

Trust me, Jenna, your good buddy and the grain buyer in your world, has plans to get you to earn your keep.

So be fair, dear Merlin. Be fair.

July 20, 2012 at 3:29 PM  
Anonymous Devon Gluza said...

Horses are similar to humans in many ways. Just like it will take you time to transition into your new life; it will also time Mr. Merlin some time as well. You will undoubtedly push each other's buttons for the next few weeks or even months, but you'll each eventually come to understand one another in new and better ways. Hang in there, and that goes to both you & Merlin.

July 20, 2012 at 3:58 PM  
Anonymous Tim said...

He probably needs a haircut. He can't see where he's going.

July 20, 2012 at 6:02 PM  
Blogger Jenna said...

Merlin hasn't had a haircut in 16 years. He can see just fine.

July 20, 2012 at 6:13 PM  
Blogger Daisy Farm said...

Sorry but I had to laugh about the haircut I was going to suggest hair clips!! A little humor.

July 20, 2012 at 6:43 PM  
Blogger Alison said...

Lol...yeah, if you trim his hair, he might lose all his strength!

July 20, 2012 at 6:59 PM  
Blogger deodar said...

Just a thought, I've always believed it takes a good year for a horse to settle in to a new 'home'. I mentioned to my vet that my mare and I finally came to a meeting of the minds and her reply was just that "well you know it probably takes a good year for a horse to settle in". I always hated to hear it but it's true, patience, persistence,consistancy and a calm matter of fact manner is the key to dealing with horses. Hang in there, it is so worth the effort.

July 20, 2012 at 8:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My gelding and I are pals now, but when I got him, he would rear and balk and try to bite. EEK!

Lots of ground work, some more ground work and even more ground work, convinced him that I am the leader, not him. He has learned that I am more stubborn than he is and he will do what I ask, always. I never give up. He is a sweet sweet guy now and wouldn't dream of doing those things. BUT, He still tests a tiny bit, and quickly gives in with just a look or a growl from me now. Just being with him, was the key for me to building a relationship of trust. It took more than a year but was worth it. :o)

You will get there too.
Heather in PA

July 20, 2012 at 10:35 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

You are doing awesome with Merlin. Horses have such unique personalities. You don't find out all of their quirks until you spend more time with them. Then can be angels one day and devils the next. Heck it can even happen in a matter of minutes!

July 20, 2012 at 10:38 PM  
Blogger Tiffrz-N-Kidz said...

Yes, yes it is. It's like anything we try that's worth doing. Like playing your fiddle. I bet the first several songs were - well - disjointed.

Whenever I would hit an impasse with a horse I'd go back to something I knew he could do. Sometimes all the way back to "Walk on" and "Whoa". Then maybe yeilding to the rein followed by a stretch. Something routine that I knew he already had down so I could praise him for something and we could reestablish our communication. Then I would work the 'new' or the 'freaky causer' back into the ride. Just something else to try.

July 20, 2012 at 11:26 PM  
Blogger mush said...

What he's thinking: Im chillin at my awesome new pad with my new bud Jasper. We're kicking back, enjoying some grass,sucking back a few cold buckets,talking to the fluffy ladies across the fence. And here she comes, all equestrian like,trying to convince me to carry her butt up a hill. Woman, we need to talk! This here pony has been around a paddock or two!

July 21, 2012 at 3:04 AM  
Blogger Elizabeth from the Berkshires said...

Just remember, if you give him a haircut (especially using a hole puncher as the cutting tool), Aunt Pat will make you use your allowance to buy him a sun hat. LOL That's what happened to Weez anyway, when she gave Cherry Merry the Shetland pony a haircut when she was a kid.

July 21, 2012 at 9:10 AM  
Blogger greendria said...

The comments here are wonderful. What a great bunch of people! Witty, caring, full of supportive words of wisdom, a joy to read.

July 21, 2012 at 9:42 AM  
Anonymous farm foreman said...

Thank you, Brenda, for your words. I've copied them into my journal to remember. I'm leasing land to get started, and often confuse worry and fear. Your post was a deep calming breath to me.

July 21, 2012 at 10:02 AM  
Blogger Elizabeth said...

Hi Jenna- remember that amazing pony I told you about last week, Bandit? He suffered from a blockage in his throat last night and didn't make it through the night, please give Merlin and Jasper an extra hug for me today. I know we don't know each other too well but I don't have many people who would understand.

July 21, 2012 at 12:05 PM  
Blogger Kris said...

3But he's so handsome!

July 21, 2012 at 12:16 PM  
OpenID cathmiller said...

"Progress is slow" - against what timetable? I thought progress was progress.... I am sure Merlin is thinking a whole lot has happened and pretty quickly since this 15 yo(45 human equivalent) pony left his home and paddock buddies only 5 months ago. Good things happen in their own sweet time. My 16 yo thoroughbred is coming back into work after 2 years off, but we are taking it slowly, and I am only asking for what he wants to give (well maybe a little more)and when he gives it is wonderful. Spend time just hanging out with him so you don't just appear with the bridle every day. If you wanted something to use whenever you feel like it, you should have got an ATV :-) It would be different if his reality had been as a working horse every day/week of his life, but he his coming back into this later in life after a break. Progress is progress and there is no deadline, unless you hadn't told us you were off to the Olympics with him next week :-)

July 21, 2012 at 9:19 PM  
Blogger Catherine Smith said...

So.... I'm going to suggest some youtube videos. Now, you have to get past his comments about some women. he is an old west cowboy and it shows. But his truths about psychology and horses and horse behavior is spot- on. He has helped me tremendously. Rock Gore on the horseawareness channel.

July 22, 2012 at 2:37 PM  

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